Tidying up ends and resets

This week as we enter another month, the period that normally I'd of been away but between the outcome of last years events and the changed circumstances from the start of last month just isn't going to happen I did think about what I tend to wear.

Given how I am with different presentations things have to key into each as part of that wider whole than it is for many and one think I was looking for was a quality red sweatshirt that could function as an extra layer like a jumper over a pinafore dress or be worn with skirts or short trousers.

It just does the job.

This was one, basic but decently made I spotted and decided to buy being quite stretchy unlike some I have had in the past.

A kind of reintroduction

Believe it or not we have made just over a thousand and fifty entries, been in existence for well over a decade and still you see fresh people coming to it before you consider it is possible others may of left.

I had been thinking for a bit and actually a kind of reintroduction post is necessary not just because of the length of time we've been around but also for a host of reasons opportunities to formally and informally through say play have been restricted for a good two and half years and some will continue beyond.

This is unapologetically a blog for littles, people who regress either for short period or like some of us involuntary regress to some extent all of the time and those who may be in their lives.

With no implied criticism this blog only looks at and is about more things that would be seen as "child safe" or otherwise safe for work and has been from day one excepting the past is what it is and in talking about that, some things that may be less in favour today may be lightly referenced. The past is the past.

What unites people is what we bond over, a love of childhood, the one you had or for some more the chance for a better one that has us in it and others who are prepared to join in spirit.

Your dollies, teddy bears, toys, comics and yes your imagination are the things we need and the things we share that makes for that reenactment of the past in the present this life at its best has.

Your grown up side may have views on groan up topics but as they never came into play back in the playground then, we certainly don't need them now.

We just played and if someone was being a bit mean, then we said just that, no "isms", "ists" just treat others the way you'd like to be treated. 

That's how it works here and anyway did you say you were a child? Leave that to groan ups!

The vantage point here is more from a feminine angle but one that is wider than that of some peoples pasts however personally they may like being that person cos being you is only for you and what anyone else may be is...different. Different is okay.

Today we recognize some people have a stronger sense having a duality of feminine and masculine traits and interests even of others may not, that you may not from a purely gender point of view see yourself as entirely one or the other.

I can and shockingly do switch or move by degrees at times by interests and by dress as do a fair number of people today but you remain one person.

This blog not surprisingly accepts people who are non-binary or see themselves as gender fluid supporting the rights of all of us to be ourselves as we are and feels this shouldn't get in way of playing with others.

 

It is shocking to consider how people were judged in the past even from their earliest days but are we prepared to accept people for how they are even if that may not be you personally?

This blog doesn't believe in demanding personal endorsement  but believes in the acceptance of difference, seeing the person beyond how they may present or how you may live your life, respecting that. Being inclusive is being accepting of difference.  No one has to "get it".

Life has interests as briefly mentioned and some of those are to be found within this blog, such as nature, music and reading although that is impacted by real life limits is more junior fiction than anything written specifically for an adult audience, comics and plushies.

I don't do regular pieces on fashion although sometime things around more littles wear such as play clothes or uniform do appear as I feel a post coming on.

Welcome to the World of Joanne_chan!

The modern world and the little

There are lots of different ways in which the way we express our little selves of which one of the more obvious is how outside of our adult lives we elect to present ourselves through what we wear.

Whatever it may be, it is always to drawn a line under what may be classed as being seen as an adult (although of course that doesn't alter The Law) and to resemble outwardly our little selves.

To varying degrees what it is inwardly our sense of littleness which for a few such myself is always there and so is involuntary and permanent would show just on its own whatever we we be wearing but we feel more at one with it more when we resemble our little selves physically.

For some this may include things like wearing say onesies that are themed more around younger children's likes, it may include "little girl dresses" or varying forms of play or leisure wear and for a few it may go into more school or what within my family we'd call our "Best outfits" that you might wear to the theatre or at church.

The World of the Child has changed from perhaps when a good number of us were born and so assumptions you may of had just are not matched in that of actual children today.

The range of clothing is a lot wider than it used to be, many of us played in too worn for use regular school clothing that had been replaced and many conventions around what can be worn by boys or girls have changed.

It is common place for girls to wear various forms of trousers today as do women often and in various parts of the world some boys are wearing skirts.

Attire does NOT make your sex: it only aligns with gender based assumptions.

As adults we have seen more recognition that a person deemed upon physical inspection at birth to be male or female can and do feel very much that they are of the opposite of frequently from an early age.

It is more recognized beyond even that some people do not feel entirely male or female or fluctuate between them and that a boy may present more feminine and a girl may be more masculine ways by local cultural standards.

Even in my relatively small suburb, we have children in school who are not in the traditional pigeon holes by way of gender and girls who don't wear skirts and boys who do wear dresses.

Yet it seems to me this World of the Little is stuck very much in a time warp even though if you were to think about it, it is quite possible in the modern world, any of those children could of been you.

Skirts for girls; trousers for boys has moved on in the real world and for some of us it has and I might add WILL remain a mix and match world reflecting how we are, how we see us and rather less defined by gender.

No one should feel uncomfortable or have to apologize for being themselves and that applies as much in the littles world as that of your adult big one.

We all can be inclusive.

The way things will be

However you look at this unparalleled period of rapid changes, reversals and general reversal of much we've taken for granted for well decades when it comes to travel, contact overseas or just the ability to see each other.

Sometimes that feeds into other things to such as how broken contact and rituals - as people we seem to just love them to varying degrees - can bring about fresh thoughts and changes.

For some people as awful as coping with the forever changing restrictions have been it's helped the shift out of relationships that just dragged them down.

With others it may be much less about being with those people so much as just what it is they like to do and present more as around them and when like me you're very much around the Tom Boy area it may not be necessarily the most understood thing in a world that likes curves and more decorative dressing.

From not exactly going far for me lead to thinking more about what I do wear especially more when I do go away looking at and trying things on as things started to improve from the mid to late Summer of last year.

At least one thing posted last November showed a newer part of how I might well look that I feel good in that fits around my perception of where along the continuum I slot in, liking to wear skirts some of the time and at other times short trousers and nearly always from a more adult as child angle where much of that adult world just doesn't apply.

And that won't be the only change.

However odd it may of seen from the sidelines,for some kinds of "play" and when paying games I've never really felt that comfortable in a traditional sports type skirt of the sort that typically fastens with sliding fastener and pleats while not unless perhaps attempting to kick a ball wanting to wear exercise or "football" shorts whatever they may offer when it comes ease of putting on and being modest.

The traditionalists may not like it but actually skorts are very much up my alley for having an inner short but being skirted meeting very much what my needs are, to offer the modesty whatever and however I be playing that shorts do but in a more feminine way.

Although none of mine are green, going forward you can expect to see more of me wearing skorts for outdoor play and games or if indoors I'm more want to play on the floor crawling and wanting an alternative to shorts.

Actually many girls end up putting a pair of shorts on under skirts for that very reason if you're doing cartwheels, climbing monkey bars or going up trees.

It's all about me being comfortable and feeling good as myself so you'll need to get used to it
 

Righting wrongs of the past

 

The one thing you don't have much say into when you're younger really is how you are dressed because for one thing you don't actually buy it, at best you'll be taken and then when you are it'll be only to those sections they think  you should chose from.

That never felt right to me as I saw all those girls outfits as I was marched briskly away from them because I really really wanted to wear them and it really put me off shopping and amplified my gender issues cos I wasn't allowed to be me.

One thing about being out of the adult world is today with your encouragement and support the wrongs of the past can be put right.

I can be dressed in short little girl dresses with matching girls socks and shoes, given a dolly or two to carry with me, playing.

Wouldn't it be great to play with others just like you?

Gender stereotyping

 

It's September, a fresh month on this rapidly improving blog even though sometimes it seems a race against the internet connection going down given how unreliable it is.

Anyway toys and play were always a bit of an issue for some of us because people when I was younger and some still do today run  with gender based stereotypes so I didn't get some even though I had played with female cousins with them cos they felt I couldn't have them or somehow this puts their status as good parents in question for just going with what I prefer.

Equally others could never get more science or boisterous as they felt at one stroke their girls would cease to be ... girls which is stupid really.

Why shouldn't girls and boys have toys that they love playing rather than just what someone somewhere things is appropriate for their gender?