Making things better

 This week I'll talk about something a bit different but I feel relevant.

Sometimes it can seem as if everything is "just so" in this world to the point that perhaps it would appear to utopia not because anyone may actually suggest it but more because we don't talk about things that can happen although they may not be any one persons fault.

Communication is the backbone of much such as that sense of belonging to a group or to being a friend or acquaintance of somebody because it is how we transmit our thoughts  so it perhaps isn't so surprising that in corporations where few may know each other well they do research into this. 

One thing that is increasingly recognized is the written word as in emails or other text types isn't necessarily the  best way of getting something done because apart from delays compared to face to face much information around how is something is meant goes missing meaning it often has to be chased up.

This can and does happen in our private lives too.

Conversations that one person may of spent time working on drafting and redrafting can seem to have acquired at the other end an interpretation that may seem a good way from what was intended.

That can lead to a response which  is puzzling (Britishers may say "flummoxed") and may even result in the belief that that are not understood that over time may move toward feeling they are never fully accepted.

That leads to unspoken hurt lingering.

The crazy thing is actually if we all admit to this, draw a line underneath of it and try to work things through rather than picking at a scab  we can improve those interactions not least by just being together and learning to accept we may not of understood each others intentions toward each other.

Nobody's perfect so why not try do things differently?

Getting beyond differences

In the week where I haven't been feeling too great between the thing I've had and what I've needed to take to deal with it I've had enough opportunity to reflect upon much of the discourse that's polarized society, heightened sensitivities and turned former friends into enemies.

It is rare for matters to be absolutes with often common ground existing between sincere advocates on each side of an argument and even when not perhaps more of us should reflect upon the reality that each is actually a human being, deserving with being treated with respect.

 There is something much bigger at stake and when we forget that the consequences for all of us are massive.

It doesn't matter what your race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, religion (if any) or politics are, we need to find a way through all of this that is respectful of each other as people first and foremost.

Will you lay down your arms?