Friday, September 28, 2012

Duality of transgendered adult little girls

Posted for every biological female who would like to understand more about those of us who are transgendered little girls.
Every one happens to be different but for me least I have a inner little girl because when I was around four, that personality was already in me with her with her own likes, dislikes as well as a sense of gender identity so I knew all about her but, put quite simply, whenever she made an appearance she was told she was 'silly', she didn't exist for she lived in a boys body, whack!, whack!, whack! if you insisted otherwise.
Little Evie had this quote on her blog from a support group:
“Express Love and Support for Child’s Gender Expression: What does this look like? It means allowing them to choose, without pressure or unspoken messages, the clothes they wish to wear, how and with whom they play, their favorite toys, the accessories they favor, the manner in which they wear their hair, and the decorations and images with which they surround themselves.”
That's what at the core of it being a transgendered child you are denied: The right to your own self. It made me sad, lashing out, doing silly things hating every minute in a gender boot camp for something that could of been corrected just be allowing my own self out and the 'right uniform' for a girl like me.
As I explained before within the limits of that era, more opportunities existed at my other schools that I used to the max to be me.
At the risk of starting a fur fight, I feel the mainstream trans community isn't supportive of adult little girls regarding us as a embarrassing group of cross dressers failing to see actually a good number of us are no different to our cis sisters apart from the fact some of us aren't cross dressers as they define it.
There are some who find or are rediscovering the inner girl they never had much of a connection with much later on and this is one reason sometimes people assume the who process of being an adult little girl is more a case of making an inner girl identity you never had although this is not my personal point of view. Equally it is not as sometimes portrayed in the fetish world a matter of looking very much an ultrafeminine young girl but with some connection to sexual fetish activity down the line (there are those who'd say 'sissy' was a whole separate gender!) and seasoned readers know that's why I never use that term on this site.
My reason for being an adult little girl is essentially the same as that of a 'cis' or biological female, the enjoyment of the innocence of being little in it's many forms with for me a some connection to having though my disabilities a more child like mindset that finds it hard to be never mind function at a more overtly adult level although I am responsible in what I do and accept the law expects me to show it as necessary.
I feel pretty much the same as  a few others I know.
I'd rather be having little adventures playing with other girls as good as I am at keeping myself amused plus with me because outside of some hobbies, I just don't relate to groan ups and groan up life at all. It may be fine for some but let's say it's just not Joanne, it bores me to the extent I even understand it. I'm only a teen for crying out loud!

Fall evening stroll:
Two girls in the park look at each from a distance,staring they see elements of themselves in each other. They walk toward each other. The trans girl stands before the cis girl in awe. The cis one links arms with her starting to talk with her. The trans girl is brave answering every question her friend asks about her past truthfully, trusting her. Both girls walk off arms linked, each accepting each other as friends and fellow girls in it all together supporting equal opportunities for all.

Sometimes in the trans community, we have people who see things as 'versus' everytime with cis feminists Vs trans activists, crossdressers Vs transexuals and so on yet in my experience in the  world of littles we seldom have this problem in getting along no matter where we are coming from.

"Fall evening stroll" is my offering to the many biological adult little girls for what they have done not just for me personally but for all adult little girls. We need each other. Let's lay down our arms and  past baggage and play together.


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  2. Very good post, it has often felt to me that if the TV community cannot accept us then how will society as a whole? It's interesting you mention that some see 'sissy' as a third gender, I have written about that before, it has always interested me.

    But from a transgendered little adult little girl viewpoint I can certainly understand this: "I just don't relate to groan ups and groan up life at all."

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