Wishes: A Reflection

We week just gone has been rather all over the place with the weather although the weekend just gone has been fairly warm and I wasn't too good for a few days.

It's a time that had led me back to those amazing unstructured discussions we had in twos and threes as children where we felt free to say thing that perhaps we might not in our usual fuller social groups where we let out more of ourselves and our most intimate thoughts to those we felt closest to.

One thing I would of wished for was to of known more of my former boss  when I was younger who died  a few days ago that had the most amazing and yet practical takes on being disabled tackling low expectations, learning to project more from that space, being supportive without telling you how to run your life  and being involved across many areas of life such as helping out able bodied running groups.

Another would of been for people to just felt free in our social circle as kids to of been more themselves less likely to felt ridiculed without having to adopt any specific and often narrow sense of identity because it seems to me that for wanting more inclusion that individual variation gets lost in a zillion tight definitions.

Some people fit into very narrow pigeon holes but often others just don't so rather than just hundreds that you have to adopt and for good measure are seen as mutually exclusive sometimes just better to accept people as they are - individuals.

Another more personal one would of been to felt up to talking to people I never met before because of my at times crippling social anxiety and for them to had know how they could of helped with it.

That was really it, in a world where it seemed most were in groups that may of made you feel stronger for being together it just seemed the bits that made everyone unique including those things we struggle with got over shadowed.